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4900 - وَ شَكَا رَجُلٌ مِنْ أَصْحَابِ أَمِيرِ اَلْمُؤْمِنِينَ عَلَيْهِ اَلسَّلاَمُ نِسَاءَهُ فَقَامَ عَلَيْهِ اَلسَّلاَمُ خَطِيباً فَقَالَ "يَا مَعَاشِرَ اَلنَّاسِ لاَ تُطِيعُوا اَلنِّسَاءَ عَلَى حَالٍ وَ لاَ تَأْمَنُوهُنَّ عَلَى مَالٍ وَ لاَ تَذَرُوهُنَّ يُدَبِّرْنَ أَمْرَ اَلْعِيَالِ فَإِنَّهُنَّ إِنْ تُرِكْنَ وَ مَا أَرَدْنَ أَوْرَدْنَ اَلْمَهَالِكَ وَ عَدَوْنَ أَمْرَ اَلْمَالِكِ فَإِنَّا وَجَدْنَاهُنَّ لاَ وَرَعَ لَهُنَّ عِنْدَ حَاجَتِهِنَّ وَ لاَ صَبْرَ لَهُنَّ عِنْدَ شَهْوَتِهِنَّ اَلْبَذَخُ لَهُنَّ لاَزِمٌ وَ إِنْ كَبِرْنَ وَ اَلْعُجْبُ لَهُنَّ لاَحِقٌ وَ إِنْ عَجَزْنَ لاَ يَشْكُرْنَ اَلْكَثِيرَ إِذَا مُنِعْنَ اَلْقَلِيلَ يَنْسَيْنَ اَلْخَيْرَ وَ يَحْفَظْنَ اَلشَّرَّ يَتَهَافَتْنَ بِالْبُهْتَانِ وَ يَتَمَادَيْنَ فِي اَلطُّغْيَانِ وَ يَتَصَدَّيْنَ لِلشَّيْطَانِ فَدَارُوهُنَّ عَلَى كُلِّ حَالٍ وَ أَحْسِنُوا لَهُنَّ اَلْمَقَالَ لَعَلَّهُنَّ يُحْسِنَّ اَلْفِعَالَ".

Hadith.4900 - A man from the companions of Commander of the Faithful (as) complained about his wife. Commander of the Faithful (as) stood up to deliver a sermon and said: "O people! Do not obey women in every matter and do not entrust them with wealth. Do not leave them to manage household affairs, for if they are left to act as they wish, they will lead to destruction and overstep the authority of the owner. Indeed, we have found them lacking in piety when fulfilling their needs and impatient when pursuing their desires. Vanity is inherent in them even as they grow older, and pride clings to them even when they become weak. They do not appreciate abundance when denied little; they forget the good but remember the bad. They rush into slander, persist in transgression, and align themselves with Satan. So, handle them with care in all circumstances and speak kindly to them so they may act righteously."

4901 - وَ رَوَى عَبْدُ اَللَّهِ بْنُ مُسْكَانَ عَنْ أَبِي عَبْدِ اَللَّهِ اَلصَّادِقِ عَلَيْهِ اَلسَّلاَمُ قَالَ: "إِنَّ اَللَّهَ تَبَارَكَ وَ تَعَالَى خَصَّ رَسُولَهُ صَلَّى اَللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَ آلِهِ بِمَكَارِمِ اَلْأَخْلاَقِ فَامْتَحِنُوا أَنْفُسَكُمْ فَإِنْ كَانَتْ فِيكُمْ فَاحْمَدُوا اَللَّهَ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ وَ اِرْغَبُوا إِلَيْهِ فِي اَلزِّيَادَةِ مِنْهَا فَذَكَرَهَا عَشَرَةً اَلْيَقِينَ وَ اَلْقَنَاعَةَ وَ اَلصَّبْرَ وَ اَلشُّكْرَ وَ اَلْحِلْمَ وَ حُسْنَ اَلْخُلُقِ وَ اَلسَّخَاءَ وَ اَلْغَيْرَةَ وَ اَلشَّجَاعَةَ وَ اَلْمُرُوءَةَ ".

Hadith.4901 - Abdullah ibn Muskan narrated from Abu Abdullah Al-Sadiq (as) who said: "Indeed, Allah (swt), the Blessed and Exalted, distinguished His Messenger (peace be upon him and his family) with noble character traits. Therefore, examine yourselves, and if you find these traits within you, then praise Allah (swt), the Mighty and Majestic, and seek from Him (swt) an increase in them." He (as) then mentioned ten traits: certainty (yaqin), contentment (qana'ah), patience (sabr), gratitude (shukr), forbearance (hilm), good manners (husn al-khuluq), generosity (sakha'), protective jealousy (ghayrah), courage (shuja'ah), and honor (muru'ah).

4902 - وَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اَللَّهِ صَلَّى اَللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَ آلِهِ : "مَنْ أَرَادَ اَلْبَقَاءَ وَ لاَ بَقَاءَ فَلْيُبَاكِرِ اَلْغَدَاءَ وَ لْيُجَوِّدِ اَلْحِذَاءَ وَ لْيُخَفِّفِ اَلرِّدَاءَ وَ لْيُقِلَّ مُجَامَعَةَ اَلنِّسَاءِ، " قِيلَ يَا رَسُولَ اَللَّهِ وَ مَا خِفَّةُ اَلرِّدَاءِ قَالَ "قِلَّةُ اَلدَّيْنِ".

Hadith.4902 - The Messenger of Allah (swt) (peace be upon him and his family) said: "Whoever desires longevity, though there is no permanence, should have an early breakfast, wear well-made shoes, wear a light cloak, and reduce intimacy with women." It was asked: "O Messenger of Allah (swt), what is meant by wearing a light cloak?" Imam (as) replied: "It means having little debt."

4903 - وَ قَالَ عَلَيْهِ اَلسَّلاَمُ: "إِذَا قَامَتِ اَلْمَرْأَةُ عَنْ مَجْلِسِهَا فَلاَ يَجْلِسُ أَحَدٌ فِي ذَلِكَ اَلْمَجْلِسِ حَتَّى يَبْرُدَ".

Hadith.4903 - The Messenger of Allah (swt) (peace be upon him and his family) said: "When a woman leaves her seat, no one should sit in that place until it has cooled down."

4904 - وَ قَالَ اَلصَّادِقُ عَلَيْهِ اَلسَّلاَمُ : "ثَلاَثَةٌ يَهْدِمْنَ اَلْبَدَنَ وَ رُبَّمَا قَتَلْنَ دُخُولُ اَلْحَمَّامِ عَلَى اَلْبِطْنَةِ وَ اَلْغِشْيَانُ عَلَى اَلاِمْتِلاَءِ وَ نِكَاحُ اَلْعَجَائِزِ".

Hadith.4904 - Imam Jafar ibn Muhammad Al-Sadiq (as) said: "Three things ruin the body and may even lead to death: entering the bathhouse on a full stomach, engaging in intercourse while the stomach is full, and marrying elderly women."

4905 - وَ قَالَ عَلَيْهِ اَلسَّلاَمُ: "ثَلاَثَةٌ مَنِ اِعْتَادَهُنَّ لَمْ يَدَعْهُنَّ طَمُّ اَلشَّعْرِ وَ تَشْمِيرُ اَلثَّوْبِ وَ نِكَاحُ اَلْإِمَاءِ".

Hadith.4905 - Imam Jafar ibn Muhammad Al-Sadiq (as) said: "There are three things that whoever becomes accustomed to them will never abandon them: trimming the hair, shortening the garment, and marrying bondwomen."

4906 - وَ قَالَ عَلَيْهِ اَلسَّلاَمُ: "هُلْكٌ بِذَوِي اَلْمُرُوءَةِ أَنْ يَبِيتَ اَلرَّجُلُ عَنْ مَنْزِلِهِ بِالْمِصْرِ اَلَّذِي فِيهِ أَهْلُهُ".

Hadith.4906 - Imam Jafar ibn Muhammad Al-Sadiq (as) said: "It is a disgrace for a man of dignity to spend the night away from his home in the city where his family resides."

4907 - وَ قَالَ عَلَيْهِ اَلسَّلاَمُ: "مَلْعُونٌ مَلْعُونٌ مَنْ ضَيَّعَ مَنْ يَعُولُ".

Hadith.4907 - Imam Jafar ibn Muhammad Al-Sadiq (as) said: "Cursed, cursed is the one who neglects those under his care."

4908 - وَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اَللَّهِ صَلَّى اَللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَ آلِهِ : "خَيْرُكُمْ خَيْرُكُمْ لِأَهْلِهِ وَ أَنَا خَيْرُكُمْ لِأَهْلِي".

Hadith.4908 - The Messenger of Allah (swt) (peace and blessings be upon him and his family) said: "The best among you is the one who is best to his family, and I am the best among you to my family."

4909 - وَ قَالَ عَلَيْهِ اَلسَّلاَمُ: "عِيَالُ اَلرَّجُلِ أُسَرَاؤُهُ وَ أَحَبُّ اَلْعِبَادِ إِلَى اَللَّهِ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ أَحْسَنُهُمْ صُنْعاً إِلَى أُسَرَائِهِ".

Hadith.4909 - Imam (as) said: "A man's family are his captives, and the most beloved of servants to Allah (swt), the Mighty and Majestic, is the one who treats his captives (family) in the best manner."